In a perfect world, all the people in our lives would be loving and supporting of us. But let’s face it, life is not perfect! I don’t know about you, but there are a few people in my life that I am learning how to love despite their constant need to point out my flaws. I completely get it, I am flawed, we all are, but taking the time to point out every little aspect that is wrong with me or my home starts to wear on me. Up until recently I would drive my self crazy trying to make myself and my home perfect in order to gain their approval, and then I realized. I would never get their approval. No matter what I did, there was always something to point out. And then, after some advise from friends and family and a lot of time in prayer about it, I came to these realizations:
-Why would I waste my time fretting over someone that will never give me approval when I have the highest approval rating from my Lord and Savior! He loves me without fail, flaws and all.
-Those pointing out my flaws are flawed themselves.
-What kind of example am I giving to my daughter that we need to spend so much time and energy trying to gain approval of others? Her self worth should not be dependent on other people, so why am I thinking that my self worth is dependent on other people?
As a follower of God, we are told that our life journey will not be easy following Him. But the good news is that He is always with us! Now, when people are belittling me I am choosing to turn to God in those situations, and it has really helped!!! Before, hurtful words would eat at my skin, tear me down, anger me, making me feel worthless. But now when those words are spewed at me, I hear “I love you” “You are precious to me” “Your worth is not based on other’s opinions of you”. I know God was ALWAYS saying those things to me, but because of my own personal hang ups, I wasn’t listening for Him. I was choosing to focus on the negative and letting others define me.
Don’t let the negativity of those around you keep you from rejoicing in God’s love and approval!
Zephaniah 3:17 (New Living Translation)
For the Lord your God is living among you.
He is a mighty savior.
He will take delight in you with gladness.
With his love, he will calm all your fears.
He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.”